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My Story: Christians not Christ-like

More questions about Christians not acting like Christ

Another phenomenon came to my attention which I will use a story to illustrate. An acquaintance of mine worked at a local wireless store and dealt with customers all day. She often had angry and frustrate customers that would test her ability to remain calm and professional. And yet she never broke down and cried over a customer’s rudeness. With one exception. The most well-known, and greatly respected (at the time) leader of the seminary and frequent church speaker came into her store with a wireless issue. And this man was so incredibly rude that for the first and only time this saleswoman broke down in tears.

So an atheist or “normal, nominal” Christian who isn’t as close to God, could be rude; but a church leader would outdo him?

What I began to question was this: if God was so powerful and He truly changed the lives of those who believed, why were they no better than those who didn’t believe. In some cases there were ever worse? Don’t misunderstand me, I never expected perfection. Marginal improvement would have been sufficient. I understood sanctification, the idea that we are saved once and then throughout life we are constantly being changed to be more like God.

High school friends illustrated this as well. Those who remained the most in tune to the church I grew up in, who were living the most Godly lives supposedly, and were the most moral in terms of my upbringing, were the first to throw away our friendship. Why? To this day I don’t fully know. What I can guess is that it was most often over mild differences in lifestyle and moral choices and perhaps things they had heard through the grapevine but never once talked to me about.

And who remained close friends after I left? One was an atheist and the other non-religious. Doesn’t prove anything simply an observation.

It seemed that Christianity as a whole was more concerned with what you did with your own body in the privacy of your own bedroom than with how you treated people on a regular basis.

Luckily, for me I found a group that was not like this. While intensely conservative and spiritual (as in literally preaching on the streets), the main group I associated with in college was the warmest, most loving, and most genuine group of singles I had met to that point. I am still friends with many of them and it thrills me and fascinates me to see their growth and development both spiritually and intellectually over the last five years as we’ve gone our own ways (more on that later).

This group helped me stay close to God and study the Bible in college and helped me find a good church to get involved in.

Of course the vast majority of Christians I knew, still fell outside of what I felt a Christian should be like. There was just no excuse for the ridiculously bigoted beliefs that so many Christians had. Jesus wasn’t like this. And once again: if indeed we believe that an all powerful God has saved us by sending his Son to pay for our sins and now lives inside of us to change us to be more like him: there should be a marked change for the better, particularly in those who have known Him for a long time. And that change should be greater than the growth shown by non-believers in similar areas without the help of Christ. This is simple logic. And yet I have seen growth in those without Christ often far outpace the growth in those who have him.


5 thoughts on “My Story: Christians not Christ-like

  1. I think “religion” is separate from spirituality. Christians like anyone else of any other denomination or none are human. I’m not condoning unacceptable behavior, but unacceptable behavior is simply that regardless of ones religious affiliation, in my opinion.

    I am grateful to have choice because I know if someones actions don’t resonate with my moral compass I can choose to limit my exposure and emotional investment in their behavior. I can let them be who they are, take care of myself and go on without judgment. Not always easy! But possible in my experience.

  2. Jesus wasn’t Christ-like. The term, “Christ-like” is a completely arbitrary and imaginary concept.

    Jesus didn’t forgive his enemies – he sent them to Hell! (Mark 16:16)
    Jesus cursed his enemies – “Thou Fools!” (Matt. 23:17)
    Jesus stole things – “untie them” ..”bring them to me” (Matt. 21:2-3)
    Jesus destroyed his enemies – “execute them in front of me” (Luke 19:27)
    Jesus didn’t love most of his neighbors, – They are ‘Dogs’! (Matthew 15:26)
    Jesus told people to judge others – “Remove your blessings”!(Matt 10:14)
    Jesus was bigoted – “They are swine” (Matthew 7:6)
    Jesus violently whipped people – attack on the temple (John 2:5)
    Jesus didn’t want peace – “I do not bring peace.”(Matt 10:34)
    Jesus LIED to people – “He went in secret” (John 7:8-13)
    Jesus prepared for war – “if you have money, buy a sword” (Luke 22:36-37)

    If it is impossible for Jesus to live up to Christianity
    perhaps the rest of us should face the fact that this entire philosophy is an ILLUSION.

  3. Respectfully, the explanation as I see it is simple: morality doesn’t come from God; rather, improvement in a person’s behavior comes from that individual’s personal decisions. Sure, for many people religion is an inspirational motivator to be good. But it’s not a one size fits all solution. Ultimately the decision to be a kind person has to come from the individual. Without religion, my personal motivation to be kind is a desire for all people to have happy lives since I am convinced this is the only one they’re going to get. But that might not work for someone else any more than religion. There are plenty of motivating forces in the world. Ambition, desire, etc. Religion is just the tip of the iceberg, but it’s very easy to assume that it’s the one true source of morality when that happens to be your own.

    1. You are correct. Morality comes from within not from a magical being in the sky giving it to us. Also society helps direct morality and circumstances can give us a variety of perspectives on it. Hence morality to one person can be different than from another. Although the basic ideas of empathy and care for other humans and for the planet I believe are naturally in all of us as they are crucial to our survival as a species. Thanks for the imput.

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