In contract, falling in love is something that is outside of our control. Or so we romanticize it be.
Think about the feelings of your first crush or the early days of a passionate relationship. Think about the excitement, the anticipation, the memories, the feeling that everything was out of your control.
I think we crave that feeling (maybe why trusting God can be attractive for so many). We crave being swept away emotionally with no clue where things may end up.
Of course this isn’t a blanket statement. Some of us are control freaks and do NOT like this idea at all (although deep down I think we would still enjoy it).
But most of us have that occasional urge to just run away, or start somewhere new, or quit our job for no reason, or move to another country, or fall in love.
By definition “falling” in love is something you can’t control. When you fall you may put your hands out to cushion your fall (thinking logically in spite of feelings) but honestly once you start falling you really can’t stop. You might be able to prevent the fall in the first place. But once you start it’s all over, you are going to hit the ground; either hard or soft depending on your reflexes and the surface on which you must fall.
Falling in love is the same. Someone who ends up being great for you will give you a soft landing and you will rest comfortably where you fell. Similarly you may fall for someone who is actually quite bad for you. But if your emotional health and coping mechanisms are mature you may cushion that landing a bit.
We long as humans to be a part of something bigger than us. We long for something completely out of our control to bring us on an amazing adventure. Falling in love promises that opportunity and no matter how many times it may disappoints we still want it enough to keep falling.