Attraction is partly biological. Without getting into the science of things too deeply, there are certain biological physical outward factors that cause men to be attracted to certain women and women to be attracted to certain men.
If you are interested here is an excellent article on the subject for Psychology Today: http://bit.ly/14hrhl9. The National also has a briefer article on the subject that may be helpful (http://bit.ly/YqbYFQ).
A quick example of the incredible influence of biological development on attraction. Studies have found that when women are not interested in a long term relationship with a man, they tend to find the more masculine man to be more attractive. However, if the woman desires someone to raise a family with she will find slightly more feminine characteristics more attractive (http://bit.ly/YqbYFQ).
There is a lot of research about alpha and beta personalities. Alpha personalities tend to attract more women but beta personalities are perceived as better for long term relationships. Perhaps this is why a lot of girls will date “jerks” if they are attractive, confident, and popular. However, you will often find women marrying men far less attractive than themselves who possess a more caring supportive personality.
An example of this type of attraction I like to use is ice cream flavors. We might say that vanilla is the most popular flavor of ice-cream in the world (29% according to Food Channel, nonscientific survey). However, there are a couple of factors coming into play.
First of all that still means the majority of people don’t favor vanilla (71%). It also could mean that vanilla got enough 2nd, 3rd, and 4th place votes to give it the most overall favor (most sales perhaps) with very few people actually saying “yes that is my absolute favorite ice-cream”.
Attraction is similar. The reason Victoria Secret models are perceived as some of the most attractive women in the world is because they broadly appeal to a large percentage of men (and women) on a purely physical basis. Very few men I know would say that a Victoria Secret model is the absolutely most beautiful woman in the world (or maybe even their top ten). But most would agree she is very attractive. Whereas many men might disagree on whether your current girl friend is highly attractive even if you find her gorgeous.
So the biological physical aspect of attraction is only a part of what creates true attraction. We should keep in mind that the biological aspect is one that we can’t really change. It’s in our genetic code and we shouldn’t see it as good or bad. It simply is who we are. If we hold to the popular psychological theory that most people are shaped 50% by nature, than this biological aspect would account for 50% of what causes us to feel attracted to some else.
Author: Jesse Leake
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